No need to give people a chance to meet the performative you. Authenticity paired with unique passion will naturally develop your networks assuming you follow the great steps you laid out. Good stuff as always brother 👊🏻
I'm so terrible in building friendship in real life and online community.
Yes I do agree with you that networking is not about performing, but it's like finding a new friend in a new field. And yes, each friendship needs time to build naturally✨
Although I definitely think that I've improved a little bit, I still understand how you feel 😂 It wasn't long ago that I would describe myself the same way. Right now, I wouldn't say I'm great at it, but definitely more "comfortable."
It's definitely something that you should consciously practice, like any positive habit.
Great advice! One thing that comes to mind for me is In the book "never split the difference" the author talks about the fact that you will seem like the most interesting person in the room for many people if you just listen attentively to what they have to say, mirror them and stay curious. Sometimes you don't even need to have a lot of things to talk about but just being a good listener helps people connect with you
I love that book. I've read it before, but some time ago -- I'm definitely due for a re-read. Thanks for reminding me! 😂
And yes, I definitely agree. That advice is as applicable for a networking event as it is for just connecting with the people around you. Be interested, show you're interested, and nurture them. Definitely key ways to building any relationship.
I remember watching a video by a business person and he more or less broke down this same strategy, of making the interaction about the other person.
I haven't networked much, but when I do I will apply. It's a great relief when you don't go to a social event without an agenda, but instead just be there and enjoy yourself.
That is definitely true. I'm not much for social events, but making enjoyment and connection the primary purpose instead of some vague metric like "networking" sounds much healthier. And easier. Thanks for reading :)
No need to give people a chance to meet the performative you. Authenticity paired with unique passion will naturally develop your networks assuming you follow the great steps you laid out. Good stuff as always brother 👊🏻
Thanks, Kyle! When put that way, building relationships seem so much easier.
What a slap for me🤣
I'm so terrible in building friendship in real life and online community.
Yes I do agree with you that networking is not about performing, but it's like finding a new friend in a new field. And yes, each friendship needs time to build naturally✨
Although I definitely think that I've improved a little bit, I still understand how you feel 😂 It wasn't long ago that I would describe myself the same way. Right now, I wouldn't say I'm great at it, but definitely more "comfortable."
It's definitely something that you should consciously practice, like any positive habit.
Great advice! One thing that comes to mind for me is In the book "never split the difference" the author talks about the fact that you will seem like the most interesting person in the room for many people if you just listen attentively to what they have to say, mirror them and stay curious. Sometimes you don't even need to have a lot of things to talk about but just being a good listener helps people connect with you
I love that book. I've read it before, but some time ago -- I'm definitely due for a re-read. Thanks for reminding me! 😂
And yes, I definitely agree. That advice is as applicable for a networking event as it is for just connecting with the people around you. Be interested, show you're interested, and nurture them. Definitely key ways to building any relationship.
I remember watching a video by a business person and he more or less broke down this same strategy, of making the interaction about the other person.
I haven't networked much, but when I do I will apply. It's a great relief when you don't go to a social event without an agenda, but instead just be there and enjoy yourself.
That is definitely true. I'm not much for social events, but making enjoyment and connection the primary purpose instead of some vague metric like "networking" sounds much healthier. And easier. Thanks for reading :)
I feel the same. I'm eager to do knowing that it will feel differently from past events.